How To Deal With Stress In Your 20’s

Dealing with stress in your twenties might be one of the toughest things yet. Things are changing, you’re becoming more independent, money is tight, and sometimes you just need a hug from your mom.

I would consider myself the queen of stress. If I’m not stressing then I’m stressing about not being stressed. A lot of time the easiest things to do are the worst for us. Drinking away our stress, sleeping away our stress, and just flat out ignoring your stress until you’re so stressed you don’t know what to do.

Being a 21-year-old college student, I am broke, I am hungry, and I am STRESSED. But instead of binge-watching Netflix every day or going to the bar on a Monday, I have found a few little tricks that have helped me de-stress.

Usually, when I get home from a day filled with class I have to start homework. But I can’t start until I have one of my favorite Bath and Body candles burning, my escential oil deffuser on, and a snack. I also have learned that when I’m studying, I have to give myself breaks. I tend to study for 45 minutes and give myself about a 10-minute break to either eat something, get some fresh air, or even just shower.

Another tip to de-stress is to get yourself to the gym and take all your anger out on the weights and equipment. As soon as I walk into the gym I put my headphones in and completely tune out the outside world.

Like I said before, I am a broke college student, which means I usually don’t have a lot of extra cash lying around but I love to window shop! Going to Target or TJ Maxx to just look around at all the stuff makes me so happy even if I walk out empty-handed.

I usually hate being outside if it is super hot or super cold but if there is a good sunset and I’m feeling stressed, I have to go and watch. The picture I posted above is from my trip to Alaska over the summer. Let me tell you, this place was the most beautiful place I have ever been to. I felt so happy and free.

My last tip about de-stressing yourself, especially at night, is to take a shower (or bath), change your sheets, put on some comfy PJ’s, put your eye mask on, and go to sleep. Sometimes our days can be filled with so much that our bodies are just physically so tired. Recharge yourself and start over the next day.

I know it’s hard for you to think about not being stressed whenever you’re stressed, and maybe these things just help me, but I encourage everyone to go out there and find their de-stressors. Whatever works for YOU is what is best!

See you next week!

Ellie

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Service Pets and the Pro’s

When you walk into a store and see “Service Animal’s Welcome” on the door, the first animal to most likely come to your mind is a dog. In the summer of 2013, I was diagnosed with anxiety and depression. I was seeking counseling, which really helped, but I also found other ways to cope. One of those ways was to go to our local animal shelter and see all of the puppies and kitties. Granted, I did have a dog and a few outdoor cats of my own at home, but seeing and playing with the other dogs and cats made me so happy!

The summer of 2014 was the summer before my senior year of high school. I had begged my parents to let me get a puppy. I knew it would help with my anxiety, but they did not like the idea of being stuck with a one-year-old dog when I went away to college in a year. So I decided to ask for an indoor cat. I have always had cats growing up, but they were only outdoor cats and I didn’t feel much of a connection to them because I never knew if they were going to be there long-term.

Both of my parents agreed to me getting a kitten, but I couldn’t adoptĀ one on my own because I wasn’t 18 at the time. My mom ended up coming with me and I fell in love with this little gray fluffball. As I was falling in love with her, my mom was falling in love with her little brother who was a little black kitty and who just so happened to be free that month. We ended up adopting both, Olive (gray) and Webster (black).

They are my pride and joy! I left the next summer to go to college and couldn’t take them with me. I was really upset because they followed me everywhere, they were almost like dogs. Finally, in my second year of school, they got to move in with me. My grades started improving, my social skills improved, my whole life changed once they got there. Now, I am in my fourth year and I have recently registered them as “emotional support cats.” People laugh when I tell them that, but these two cats are my whole entire world. They follow me everywhere, sleep with me, know when I need extra cuddles, and even know when I’m stressed. People talk about how making your pet into a service pet is a joke, or is just so you don’t have to pay for them to live with you, but in my situation, it is not a joke at all. I wouldn’t be where I am today if I didn’t have my two little support buddies.

Ellie

Long Distance Relationships Aren’t THAT bad

My main focus for this week is going to be long-distance relationships with a significant other. Granted, I have a few long distance relationships going on in my life with my boyfriends, my friends, and my parents, but this week I wanted to just talk about the boyfriend.

Just to give a little background, we met in our hometown of Springfield, IL, in March of 2017. He had graduated from college the year before, and of course, I was still here at SIUe. Seeing each other every weekend was great, especially with summer right around the corner I knew we would get to see each other all the time. After summer, he took a job up in Chicago and I moved back to Edwardsville. His job ended up not working out, so he decided to come to Edwardsville and stay with me temporarily. I honestly thought this was going to be the worst decision of my life, but thankfully, I was wrong.

He cooked and I cleaned, and for the most part, we had a pretty good schedule figured out. It was then time for him to move back up north full-time. At first, I was devastated. We had just spent roughly 3 months having a great time and now he has to go back? We still ended up seeing each other every weekend. Either I would drive up there, we would meet back at home, or he would come down to Edwardsville. This has been our routine for almost a year now, with little vacations here and there, of course. But for the most part, we consider ourselves “see ya next weekend” type of people.

As hard as I thought this would be, it has honestly been more easy than hard. Of course, we have our weeks or days. FaceTime has been our best friend, and at the end of the day, we know we get to see each other again in a few days (usually).

With this being my last semester here at SIUe, I have started to look for future jobs and future internships, but the question I have to keep asking myself is WHERE DO I LOOK? Do I look in Chicago? Do I look in Arizona? Do I look back home in Springfield? I don’t want to be moving to Chicago for a boy but I also don’t want to be moving to Arizona to live with my parents again. I know that in the end, I will make the best decision for myself and not anyone else.

Lastly, I just want to say, long distance can 100% be hard, but if you are committed and willing to put in the time, effort, and driving, it will definitely be worth it! You have to have trust, good communication skills, and a good steady relationship even before you go the long distance!

Come back next week to see what else I’m up to!

Ellie

3 Different Living Places


Hi all! I thought I would start my second blog out by giving you all a little background on me.

I am originally from Sherman Illinois, which is a small town outside of Springfield. I moved to Edwardsville Illinois in August of 2015 to attend college. I currently live in a townhouse in Edwardsville, with a roommate and my two kitties. Last April, my dad took a job in Arizona and moved out there all by himself. That left me in Edwardsville for the majority of the time, and my mom in Sherman for the majority of her time. Even though I expected it to be very difficult for us three, it has actually been very fun!

My dad came home for several weeks during the holidays, and when he went back to Arizona, my mom went with him. This has been the only hard part because we still have our house in Sherman, so I have to make trips there constantly to check on the house. I have also had the joy of being in charge of our family dog!

Bouncing back from Edwardsville to Sherman can be kind of hectic sometimes, and now throwing Arizona in the mix, it is also very fun, and I have learned a lot! Having 3 different rooms is fun, having all of my stuff scattered from here to there is stressful, not having my parents an hour and a half away is sad but also good for me, and I have a beautiful state that I get to call my home for part of the time!

If anyone gets the opportunity to visit Arizona, I would highly recommend! (Maybe not during August, though!)

Stay tuned for next week and the next story!

Ellie

Welcome to my blog!

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Hello fellow PR students, and welcome to my blog!

My name is Ellie and I am very excited to jump in and get started with this PR writing course! I am a senior at SIUe, I am graduating in May with a major in Sociology and Employment Relations and a minor in Applied Communication Studies. As much as I have dreaded the early morning classes, the late night studying and learning how to balance a social life with school life, I will say, I am going to miss it!

I recently postponed my sociology internship course until the summer because I want to be able to get the rest of my courses in and under my belt. As I have been on the hunt for an internship since around Thanksgiving, I have found myself looking more and more into PR firms! I hope this class can help guide me in the right direction towards the perfect internship in the summer!

Even though this is a PR course, I will be talking about other things as well, so stay tuned until next time!

Ellie